an affair to remember.

a couple meets on a ship.
they fall in love. its beautiful.
they keep everything a secret so that people don't "talk" as we all know people do...
they agree to meet in six months at the top of the Empire State building. July 1st at 5pm.
BUT as she rushes to the Empire State building she is in a terrible accident.
He waits and waits and waits for her to show but of course she won't be there because of her accident.
...and she won't go see him because she is too proud.
He eventually goes to see her, and she is just laying there on the couch, and he remembers a woman who came into his shop in a wheel chair buying one of his art pieces and then he realizes what happened.
with a minute remaining on the film, they embrace and its so beautiful.
thats true love.

holding hands, holding hearts.

According to the Bible's perspective, if you are dating you are not just holding hands, you are holding hearts. What you do with your own heart and what you do with another's is a matter of great importance.

Above all else, guard your heart,
for it is the wellspring of life.
[Proverbs 4:23]

Growing and Guarding

In dating, our goal should be to grow and guard.

We want to grow closer so we can truly know each others character, but we also want to guard each others hearts because the outcome of our relationship is still unknown.

We should acknowledge that the future is unknown and that we should treat each other with the kind of integrity that will allow us to look back on our relationship without regret, regardless of the outcome.

It's a balancing act. Sure we have the clear purpose to consider marriage but we also need to fight the urge to assume that we are going to get married.

However, if God leads you to marriage, you won't need to guard your hearts - you will belong to each other completely.

"Life's most valuable lessons often occur in the midst of our greatest pain."

Some peoples biggest mistakes in romantic relationships were almost all results of impatience.

Wisdom calls us to slow down. "I wait for you , O Lord, you will answer, O Lord, my God." Psalms 38:15

Patience is an expression of trust that God, can create a wonderful relationship in His time.

take my hand and drag me head first fearless!

Last Saturday we had "the talk"


So after 4 hours of talking at ihop, (our usual place for serious discussions). 3 cups of coffee each -- which makes 6 creamers, and 15 packets of sugar. Goodness, we have a problem...


We have taken the next step and are prayerfully and carefully considering a relationship.


I know that it may seem like we have been doing this for the past few months, BUT there were obstacles in these past months. Now, we have overcome those obstacles, we have the privileged of seeking counsel from our Heavenly Father, and digging deep to find if this is what He has in store for us.


I'm not worried.
I'm not scared.
I'm not anxious.
I'm happy.


We both want our relationship to be a Godly one (which our friendship is based on). We both want to make sure God is in complete control of our relationship. We both want to be sure that we are not taking this lightly and we want to be sure that we are ready for such a commitment. 


"Father, I come before You in prayer and in faith." Matthew 21:21