Psalm 51

"Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
Do not cast me from your presence
or take your Holy Spirit from me.
Restore to me the joy of your salvation
and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me."
Psalm 51:10-13

Because we are humans we first put our own desires before God's desires for us.
When we ask God to cleanse our heart, our mind and our soul it opens up the chance for Him to really work through us. In all aspects of our life. It draws us nearer to Him, to seek Him. God breaks us so He can heal us, so He can build us up.

Another thing to ponder. There is nothing we can do that will make God love us less. His love is pure, strong and unconditional. No one else on the earth can love me like that.